I suppose my final points would be, be kind to people, you don’t know what they might be dealing with, what they have had to leave behind, or what they have escaped from. It costs nothing to be kind. Most of all though, know that there is no shame in taking a break, or even dropping out entirely if that is what is best for your mental health. It doesn’t mean you are a failure; it doesn’t mean that you have no future; it means that you are prioritising your health and wellbeing; it means that you will not become another statistic; it means that you have your entire life ahead of you.
So why am I telling you this? I suppose the point of this article is to actually encourage you lovely readers to check out the body acceptance movement. On the whole it is wonderful, and while it doesn’t help me to accept my body, that is because of deep seated issues that I have to work through myself, and not the fault of the movement. There are many body acceptance accounts that share wonderful content and it is always refreshing to see unedited images. You may not gain the confidence to dance on the internet in your pants, but normalising diverse body shapes can’t be a bad thing right?
The thing with trying to fight an overwhelming mentality is, slow progress feels like no progress. When you are fighting your own brain, it has the power to tell you anything it wants. I remember reading somewhere that mental illness is the only illness that convinces you you’re fine and I don’t think anything sums it up better.
When I look in the mirror I see someone different for a while and it feels like taking a break from myself. The same situation can manifest with piercings, tattoos, hair dye, whole new wardrobes, rearranging furniture, painting your house from top to bottom
The girl who was once so focused on getting all A – C grades now lusts for a life full of adventure, colour, sound, and who wants to run, screaming, from the prospect of working in a dreary, poorly ventilated office. The balance of old expectations and new ambitions and goals is not an easy one, but something the goody-goody and the garden fairy can agree on, is that it will be worth it in the end.
Not getting this job could be the best thing that happens to me, as long as I capitalise on the feelings and emotions it has left me with. My head is swimming with creativity and sometimes we just have to let it out. so, my advice to you is, jump on those setbacks, those bumps in the road. Embrace them for everything they truly are: a chance to make your life as extraordinary as it was always meant to be.