If you are unlucky enough to experience life with the same sense of failure as I have every day, then just know that you are not alone. I think this is a quite common trait for those who suffer from mental ill health. We know, as rational, intelligent human beings what we need to do to help ourselves in the long run, we also know that those things are not huge, disruptive changes. We also know, deep down, that our self-sabotage stems from our brain’s need/desire to gain hits of serotonin and dopamine throughout the day to make it through. So, even though we want to be productive, the video games or Netflix binge are more appealing. Even though we want to eat the foods that can help our overall health, the chocolate bar, or the crisps we don’t need are too tempting not to eat. The vicious cycle perpetuates our struggles and prevents us from completing simple tasks to make bigger steps.
Ultimately, I think that feeling stuck is a natural part of life, we need to feel frustrated with the way our life has turned out until this point in order to make impactful, meaningful changes and end up in a position or situation that makes us much happier and feel a lot more accomplished. I hope that if you are feeling stuck, at the very least you feel less alone after reading this, and maybe you can find a little peace with where you find yourself currently before taking that next big step.
often surrounds it. We have mental health awareness months and weeks; we have days dedicated to specific mental health conditions (although you may only be aware of those if you have a personal stake in the condition in question). This year alone the government pledged £500 million to fund a mental health recovery plan. So why is it still so difficult to talk about our mental health honestly?
dge. We need to talk to schools, workplaces, and communities about suicide, about mental health in general. It is difficult to have conversations about this topic, it is frightening to tell your own story, even to those who are closest to you, but it is so important. If it could save even one life, doesn’t that make it worth it? Let’s keep talking about this. Let’s keep sharing our stories, our struggles, and our emotions. Let’s work to remove the stigma and shame surrounding suicide and change the world for the better!
When reality comes along to slap you fellow relentlessly positive people in the face, just remember that it is a blip, a necessary blip. We are dreamers and as such can get carried away. We need reality, we need some negativity, we just need to remember to keep it diluted enough that we can cope with it. A vial skill for us dreamers is to learn how to defend against the inevitable negativity and reality sides of life without killing them. Find what works for you, and know that this is all temporary, you will be dreaming again soon enough, just as soon as you remember how good it feels with those rose-tinted glasses.