No coping mechanism for mental health works 100% all the time.
No matter how knowledgeable we are about ourselves or the number of skills we have developed, there are times when nothing works.
As a result, the risk of amplifying our fears, self-sabotage and overall feeling of defeat increases. It increases so much that it can give us a real scare or a sense of total loss.
However, I can assure you that, that is ok. You can let yourself off the hook of social persecution and the fear of your peers. And most importantly, you can let yourself facing your very worst enemy. You, the person you see in the mirror everyday.
We don’t yet live in a world where mental health is normalized and is part of our collective existence. Consequently, the biggest censor we face, is the one we place on ourselves.
How many times have you had this conversation with yourself? “Nobody wants to listen to me yapping about my stuff” or “ I don’t anyone to call”. Maybe this one, “despite everything I try nothing works” and then the classic, “I don’t want to be a burden”.
Statements like these are cages that, through repetition, we start to believe in them. These cages can develop into a prison. A prison for your mind! (sorry I couldn’t help the Matrix reference).
We all can contribute to a collective solution where speaking about our “stuff” is ok. We are not simply robots that work from nine to five, clock out and come back the next day.
Coincidentally, our minds are not that different from one another, yet, we just don’t realize this, because we don’t talk. If we did, we would discover that we share a whole world full of colours and light. If only we allowed ourselves.
We cannot escape the fact, that our minds are part of us. Therefore, when it comes to our mind we should honour it, talk about it, take for ride once in a while and rest it at the end of each day. Neglecting it leads to nowhere.
Our minds are like a limb
When I write about mental health, it is not only a passion, but also a great resource for me. It helps with the development and rewiring of my mind and it calms me down. Writing about the subject has become my contribution to the kind of world I want to live in.
My central message is very simple. WE MATTER, we are not our jobs, our bank accounts, families, routines, or what have you. As eeople we are fantastic. We need to stop living with this idea that seeking help or talking about what is going on, makes us weak.
If we break and arm or a leg, we go to the hospital. If our mind is submitted to some kind of trauma why not do the same?
Talk. People will listen.